Be Your Own Competitor

What is the saying, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, water your own? It will always be greener on the other side if you are not tending to your own? I may of made that last part up, but how true if you aren’t tending to your own lawn, it will always be greener on the other side!

My Mom often told me, you can do your best, but you don’t know what the competition will be. Just work on you, that’s all you can do. True that Mom! Be your own competitor. If you constantly measure, compare and reflect on the competition you lose your focus. Be grateful for the opportunity and in her words just worry about yourself.

Do your best, that’s it.

Thank you to all the “helpers” for all you are doing to keep people safe and healthy.

Doing your best at this point means staying home. Is it easy? No. Introverts are rejoicing. Extroverts are most likely struggling. Kids are at home, homes have turned into schools and offices. Gyms. Dance and exercise studios. All while being interrupted by Corona Conferences. We or should I say I’m on overload of constant information, all while forgetting what day it is wearing yesterday’s pajamas and last month’s nails, ok, let’s be honest. It’s not pretty.

Stop. Do the best you can. Be kind to yourself. Sometimes making it through the day matters. Work. Exercise. Pray. Meditation. Clean. Hobbies. Family and friends. Organize. Social Distance Socialize. Netflix. Eat and Drink.

Think positive, everything in moderation isn’t that what “they” say, be kind to yourself and enjoy the days as best you can. That’s it, that’s all we can and yes, stay home.

Cancer and weight watchers changed my life!

Well, maybe not exactly, cancer and weight watchers changed my life forever and ever, but changed my perspective on life. This will be short because it’s that easy. This has nothing to do with the weight watcher diet, this is not an advertisement and I’m not a paid spokesperson. Ha, now that we got that out of the way! My Mom for some time right before being diagnosed with stage 4 cancer was feeling great, had no prior symptoms and had been eating healthy and was counting points on weight watchers successfully losing weight. This is my point,  with no prior symptoms she was diagnosed with cancer while making dietary changes and eating healthy and did it because she felt good, she was making changes for her health that were realistic.  This is not a science or medical article.  My point is, enjoy life, enjoy what you are eating, enjoy exercising and do it because you like how you feel or simply embrace yourself and enjoy yourself because she went from counting points to losing weight from chemo and radiation treatments very quickly, completely out of her control. So, be healthy,  but don’t deprive yourself and be comfortable in your own skin because life is too short to deprive yourself of joy!

Every now and then…

Then,  I would think;  too good to be true, I don’t deserve this, I feel bad, “they” must think, this is too easy, no way this can be right, I can’t……sometimes, I think we can be accustomed to tragedy, whether personal, social media induced, it becomes a norm because as a society we are driven by fear that turns into fight or flight. It’s human nature.   I always wondered why there wasn’t a celebrate or learn option, hence, my point; fear. Fight, flight, celebrate and learn. That was then.

Now, there is no fear, maybe because I had a lot of fear through death,  fear that wiped me out into the fight, fight so bad I became physically ill. Now, celebrate; I do deserve this, why not I work hard, enjoy, take care it’s not selfish. Learn. Learn to celebrate, take in, see the good, be grateful, embrace, laugh and don’t feel bad, you deserve this life, God chose you and only gave you one. Celebrate now!


The ever so popular Facebook, I mean, it must be true it’s on Facebook! It’s like what is printed on the rear view mirror of a vehicle, “objects in mirror may appear closer than they are!” Facebook reminds me of this saying time and time again. Let’s be honest,  we all choose how and what we post, the objects on FB may not appear this way in real life. The reverse is true, there is more to life than what is posted. However,  you can tell a lot about a person according to their post or should I say portrayal. For example, last week I was in a waterpark having a great time, especially on water slides, but I did not dare take a picture of water clogging up my nose and bathing suit ending up you know where on the very fast way down the water slide in my tube. My point, facebook is great in my opinion catching up with others, photos, stories, factual/real information, celebrating/sharing, keeping in touch in our busy lives.  Don’t compare your day running errands to someone’s day at the beach or a celebrity spotting because while you are busy or getting ready for the vacation; objects in the mirror are closer than they appear! What, how, why, who cares ? Do you ever just think these thoughts while scrolling, exactly, but then think, that’s so nice, beautiful, aw, that’s great.  It’s overstimulating, so we then become gardeners, weeding out all that’s newsworthy to us. This saying always makes my skin crawl, very, very well meaning, but it sort of reminds me of what is scattered throughout a haunted house front yard; RIP. Yes, I know,  rest in peace, so very thoughtful and kind. But, it’s just that RIP, done, scroll, like this, love that. Meanwhile, RIP is still grieving, after every story you read on your newsfeed. So, just remember,  “objects in mirror are closer than they appear.” Some objects need a bit more TLC, while others will appear further from the truth and heart. TTYL