Be Your Own Competitor

What is the saying, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, water your own? It will always be greener on the other side if you are not tending to your own? I may of made that last part up, but how true if you aren’t tending to your own lawn, it will always be greener on the other side!

My Mom often told me, you can do your best, but you don’t know what the competition will be. Just work on you, that’s all you can do. True that Mom! Be your own competitor. If you constantly measure, compare and reflect on the competition you lose your focus. Be grateful for the opportunity and in her words just worry about yourself.


Hope is the ship that sails even when the rain, wind, and storm turn fierce. Hope is a guiding light, but it’s up to us to keep it lit. Find it inside yourself to believe that a delay isn’t defeat, but a redirection. Redirection has a purpose even when the purpose isn’t clear in the moment. Sail the ship even when the shore is at a distance and remember growth and empowerment come outside of your comfort zone.

Do your best, that’s it.

Thank you to all the “helpers” for all you are doing to keep people safe and healthy.

Doing your best at this point means staying home. Is it easy? No. Introverts are rejoicing. Extroverts are most likely struggling. Kids are at home, homes have turned into schools and offices. Gyms. Dance and exercise studios. All while being interrupted by Corona Conferences. We or should I say I’m on overload of constant information, all while forgetting what day it is wearing yesterday’s pajamas and last month’s nails, ok, let’s be honest. It’s not pretty.

Stop. Do the best you can. Be kind to yourself. Sometimes making it through the day matters. Work. Exercise. Pray. Meditation. Clean. Hobbies. Family and friends. Organize. Social Distance Socialize. Netflix. Eat and Drink.

Think positive, everything in moderation isn’t that what “they” say, be kind to yourself and enjoy the days as best you can. That’s it, that’s all we can and yes, stay home.

You matter too!

You matter too. 

I talk about this a lot, shingles was my best teacher. I never knew I had it until the burning sensation in my back hit in a blistering fashion along with complete exhaustion. Complete exhaustion.  I remember blaming myself and feeling just ridiculous because some how or some way I created this. Wrong. Now, I see  it, then, I blamed myself. Now, I know my Mom was diagnosed and passed away in a year of cancer. A very shocking diagnosis. Now, I get it, no wonder I had shingles, why not, I was taking on too much, trying to keep up and grieve. Grieving.  I was in a complete fog and I didn’t realize it until recently because I believe that you don’t realize how bad you feel until you feel great again   I take responsibility, but I was doing the best I can. 

Stop it. Slow down. You can’t do it all. You matter. You do the best you can. Enjoy the moment. Take your time. Respect yourself.  Stop blaming yourself. In time. Do what matters not for the sake of doing. Be happy. Plan ahead. Stop!

Take the compliment!

Take the compliment! Be grateful someone is recognizing your hard work and be thankful they can see what you are capable of and then thank yourself because you are showing your capabilities, keep up the good work and feel like you deserve it.  Just say, thank you and smile, it is OK to be recognized.