On this day, I give thanks and am so cheerful thinking back on the wonderful Mom I was granted. On this day, she entered her heavenly home way too soon, but her time on earth was so plentiful and continues to be as we carry her in our hearts. Roberta Elsie left her mark on many. An imprint that was everlasting with her loving, kind, understanding, honest, fun, down to earth spirit and so much more.
A good friend once told me when in doubt think about it, “what would Bert do?” Bert, never needed the spotlight, she worked hard and when in her presence you were met with joy and realism. She spoke the truth fairly, honestly and respectfully. Impeccably organized and impeccable with her word. Roberta could always be trusted and even if she was annoyed, you would never know, well maybe, sometimes I knew because she would say, ha “I need you to stop talking for just 5 minutes.” She never raised her voice in anger, but instead would tell you exactly how she felt and she was always right, sometimes so much so!
Bert, I’m grateful for August 2 because it reminds me of you and always leaves me with,”what would Bert do?” The answer that lingers is…. it is what it is and do the best you can and have faith everything works out for the best. We can’t control everything and everything happens for a reason. Don’t waste your time worrying, but do what you can and move on.
I think one of the best lessons I learned from my Mom’s cancer diagnosis is certainty of uncertainty. We may think we are certain; of our day, our life, our tasks, our joys, but I never knew how comfortable I was with uncertainty until I saw my Mom fight fearlessly with a positive attitude. The vessel of uncertainty fills with hope, faith and love for all that we have and acceptance of what it is within our control. Be certain that when faced with uncertainty you have the power within; your faith, hope, joy and love of life will sustain.
Good grief! I am sure you’ve heard those words together, but why? What’s so great about grief? Nothing and everything! My Mom passed in 2010 of cancer, unexpectedly and let’s just say at the time there was nothing good about my grief through my Mom’s passing. Literally, my heart ached, I cried so much that I was choking through tears, nothing anyone could say made me feel better, nothing! I cried for my Mom’s suffering, the thought of her pain, the years missed that she spent looking forward too, the pain of others losing her that loved her so much and the list goes on! What was so good in that grief? Pain. Loss. Tears. Love. Time. Life goes on. It took years for me to see the good in the grief and it was hard because for so long I thought that the more I felt and lived the loss, the more I showed my Mom I loved her. Wrong. Good grief, reflecting on how my Mom would want all those that she loved to live. Live the life that she lost and resonate the joy, strength, grace, kindness, love she had for others and this life. Good grief!
See every opportunity as a gift to grow for the best and remember be kind to yourself because the majority of situations are not about our actions, but our reactions and how we choose to respond. Keep it in perspective!
Is the glass half full or half empty? It’s all in perspective right?
I choose to see my glass as half full and as I mentioned the other day in my post about believing in my own honors; don’t doubt your successes, passions, recognition that you are given and certainly don’t neglect your honors. If you don’t see your own successes, how do you expect anyone else to see it! Time is precious, choose wisely.