Change your situation or accept it and change your attitude.
You are allowed to feel differently as you evolve and possibly understand a situation differently because that’s called understanding. You have nothing to prove to anyone, those that choose to not seek to understand it’s ok, but don’t waste your energy trying to prove anything. Move on and focus your energy and time where it’s valued. Wish them well from a distance, no need to carry hate in your heart.
I am extremely grateful for family, good friends, my health, a job where I feel truly valued, and having faith in God for the ability to not understand, but know God has our greatest purpose at heart. This past year, I’ve learned the value of this on a deeper level and that has caused me to slow down and value quality over quantity.
I have these cards called #truthbomb, let’s just say they don’t lie and always speak a truth to me! This week’s #truthbomb was let it be easy.
Have you ever been faced with disappointment, no matter how big or small? It happens, even if your package says it’s on the way, but it’s been sitting 5 minutes from your home for a week. Disappointment happens! Guess what, we decide our own grace, lucky us! We can feel disappointment, it’s normal, but how we respond is our power.
Grace to ourselves and grace to others is our choice. Living in our disappointment only hurts us because it’s like a wound that doesn’t heal. It’s the ability to shift our mindset from I can’t believe this is happening to me, but to why is this happening and how can I respond by keeping and protecting my peace. We live in a “me” society, I can’t believe this is happening to me, don’t they care about me, what about me? As my Mom would say, “it’s not always about you.” Grace for ourselves and for others allows us to create a sense of peace.
Take time, feel the disappointment, but let it go with how you can; meditate, journal, talk, exercise, learn from it and move on. All the wiser, is what you are left with after the disappointment hits. How will you respond? Learn from it and move on. Let it be easy!
What is the saying, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, water your own? It will always be greener on the other side if you are not tending to your own? I may of made that last part up, but how true if you aren’t tending to your own lawn, it will always be greener on the other side!
My Mom often told me, you can do your best, but you don’t know what the competition will be. Just work on you, that’s all you can do. True that Mom! Be your own competitor. If you constantly measure, compare and reflect on the competition you lose your focus. Be grateful for the opportunity and in her words just worry about yourself.
Finding joy can be extremely difficult to feel or find after grieving the loss of anything, especially something that was special to you. I am still getting over the fact that summer is over, I miss those beach and pool days bathing in the sunshine.
Grief, it can take all shapes and forms, some of which are out of our control. My Mom’s passing to cancer left it extremely hard to feel joy in anything, but as time went on, the joy was all around me. The thoughts, kindness, love, appreciation, gratitude that came with the loss of my Mom is indescribable. I felt it, I felt the joy when I turned on the news last week, survivors of Hurricane Harvey in Texas found the joy and love in their community; caring and kindness of strangers, even though all of their belongings are gone they were brought together by surviving as a community thriving on the love and thoughtfulness of strangers.
Life isn’t about merely surviving, making it to Friday, making it to the end of the day, getting by and getting through it. It’s how we get there that makes the difference. We can’t always control what is happening, but we can certainly control how we respond. Just like all of the people in Texas found joy in their community among a storm; supporting, helping others in need even though they couldn’t stop the storm, they found the joy.
Joy, search for the whispers of light, the gentle breeze, the joy is there even when we least expect it when we are not looking and start noticing.