Good grief! I am sure you’ve heard those words together, but why? What’s so great about grief? Nothing and everything! My Mom passed in 2010 of cancer, unexpectedly and let’s just say at the time there was nothing good about my grief through my Mom’s passing. Literally, my heart ached, I cried so much that I was choking through tears, nothing anyone could say made me feel better, nothing! I cried for my Mom’s suffering, the thought of her pain, the years missed that she spent looking forward too, the pain of others losing her that loved her so much and the list goes on! What was so good in that grief? Pain. Loss. Tears. Love. Time. Life goes on. It took years for me to see the good in the grief and it was hard because for so long I thought that the more I felt and lived the loss, the more I showed my Mom I loved her. Wrong. Good grief, reflecting on how my Mom would want all those that she loved to live. Live the life that she lost and resonate the joy, strength, grace, kindness, love she had for others and this life. Good grief!
If you are going to do something do it right and do it well through effort, being mindful and diligent. Make it worth your time and honor your talent.
Back in March, I rededicate myself to wellness. It sounds a little like a baptism of some sort! I made a conscious effort to get to classes; spinning, bootcamp, zumba, yoga. The smorgasbord board of aerobic activity I’d say. There were days when I was at work thinking I don’t want too, but I remembered how good I felt when the class was over. Who really after working all day wants to plank, throw a tire or lift weights. The more consistent I got in doing classes, the easier and more enjoyable they are. What do “they” say it takes 21 days to create a habit. Well, I think it takes a lot more than that. I love the people I go with, location is convenient, the center is awesome, I feel great doing the classes and my workout clothes are comfy. It takes a lot more than 21 days. The discipline of getting to the gym grounds me. Make yourself a priority, it’s not selfish at all because you are investing in your future. Take it one plank at a time!
I realized the other day as embrassing as it is, I have to stop and really think about how many days are in a month. Just when I remember we are on to a new month. February, February, forget it, are we in the leap year or not? Seriously, it is the little things in life that you just have to laugh at. Yes, I know there is a song and poem, but honestly, I may of been absent the day that was taught because I can’t remember that either. My Mom would joke that I was dropped as a baby on my head, maybe that’s true! I can remember a lot, but the months, forget it. I practice, but rely on my calendar. Did this ever happen to you? My favorite pizza shop closes for a week in the summer, I glanced at the date and thought, that can’t be right because it’s a Wednesday, then I thought that’s right there is 31 days in July. I even said it aloud, I started laughing and thank goodness the cashier laughed too.
My point is, laugh at yourself because you are not perfect, keep your sense of humor and be genuine because the days run short even if we forget how many there are, be grateful for them.
Well, maybe not exactly, cancer and weight watchers changed my life forever and ever, but changed my perspective on life. This will be short because it’s that easy. This has nothing to do with the weight watcher diet, this is not an advertisement and I’m not a paid spokesperson. Ha, now that we got that out of the way! My Mom for some time right before being diagnosed with stage 4 cancer was feeling great, had no prior symptoms and had been eating healthy and was counting points on weight watchers successfully losing weight. This is my point, with no prior symptoms she was diagnosed with cancer while making dietary changes and eating healthy and did it because she felt good, she was making changes for her health that were realistic. This is not a science or medical article. My point is, enjoy life, enjoy what you are eating, enjoy exercising and do it because you like how you feel or simply embrace yourself and enjoy yourself because she went from counting points to losing weight from chemo and radiation treatments very quickly, completely out of her control. So, be healthy, but don’t deprive yourself and be comfortable in your own skin because life is too short to deprive yourself of joy!