Be Your Own Competitor

What is the saying, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, water your own? It will always be greener on the other side if you are not tending to your own? I may of made that last part up, but how true if you aren’t tending to your own lawn, it will always be greener on the other side!

My Mom often told me, you can do your best, but you don’t know what the competition will be. Just work on you, that’s all you can do. True that Mom! Be your own competitor. If you constantly measure, compare and reflect on the competition you lose your focus. Be grateful for the opportunity and in her words just worry about yourself.

Hope

Hope is the ship that sails even when the rain, wind, and storm turn fierce. Hope is a guiding light, but it’s up to us to keep it lit. Find it inside yourself to believe that a delay isn’t defeat, but a redirection. Redirection has a purpose even when the purpose isn’t clear in the moment. Sail the ship even when the shore is at a distance and remember growth and empowerment come outside of your comfort zone.

Safe at Shore

Are you the type of person that eases your way into the ocean, little by little or standing at the shore enjoying the beach? Or, are you all in? Diving into the water convincing yourself you will feel warmer by just diving in? Both of these ideas take some convincing of our own. Come on, just do it, or I wonder if there are shells!

Sometimes, the more I talk to myself, the more I stay at the shore not walking to take the plunge. Time and time again, I think to myself if someone fighting cancer can get up, show up and keep a positive attitude then I can do this! My Mom, even in her last months woke up with a purpose and never felt sorry for herself. It’s funny because prior to getting sick, my Mom never held a grudge or complained. Thinking back, I don’t think complaining was ever an option. The options were; if something is bothering you, make a change and if you can’t, change the way you think about it. In her words, stop talking about it and do something. Take action whether you are diving in or safe at the shore, see the beauty and believe in your thoughts and actions.

Good grief!

Good grief! I am sure you’ve heard those words together, but why? What’s so great about grief? Nothing and everything! My Mom passed in 2010 of cancer, unexpectedly and let’s just say at the time there was nothing good about my grief through my Mom’s passing. Literally, my heart ached, I cried so much that I was choking through tears, nothing anyone could say made me feel better, nothing! I cried for my Mom’s suffering, the thought of her pain, the years missed that she spent looking forward too, the pain of others losing her that loved her so much and the list goes on! What was so good in that grief? Pain. Loss. Tears. Love. Time. Life goes on. It took years for me to see the good in the grief and it was hard because for so long I thought that the more I felt and lived the loss, the more I showed my Mom I loved her. Wrong. Good grief, reflecting on how my Mom would want all those that she loved to live. Live the life that she lost and resonate the joy, strength, grace, kindness, love she had for others and this life. Good grief!Image result for grief

 

What’s your perspective?

Is the glass half full or half empty? It’s all in perspective right?

I choose to see my glass as half full and as I mentioned the other day in my post about believing in my own honors; don’t doubt your successes, passions, recognition that you are given and certainly don’t neglect your honors. If you don’t see your own successes, how do you expect anyone else to see it! Time is precious, choose wisely.