What is the saying, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, water your own? It will always be greener on the other side if you are not tending to your own? I may of made that last part up, but how true if you aren’t tending to your own lawn, it will always be greener on the other side!
My Mom often told me, you can do your best, but you don’t know what the competition will be. Just work on you, that’s all you can do. True that Mom! Be your own competitor. If you constantly measure, compare and reflect on the competition you lose your focus. Be grateful for the opportunity and in her words just worry about yourself.
Acceptance seeks understanding, truth, reflection, change, empathy, patience and grace.
Acceptance can be a challenge when we may disagree with another person’s, actions, views and overall being. Acceptance allows us to seek to agree or disagree. Acceptance isn’t weak, but strength when we are forced to accept the situation for what it is and decide our truth. Truth comes from how we choose to rewrite the ending by taking action. Empathy and grace for ourselves and others allow us to step out and make a change as small as it may be. Our choices contribute to a change for the better.
Truth is when we can can’t change a situation, we can change our attitude and adjust our thinking. Adjusting our thinking to contribute to a positive change takes a great deal of patience and reflection. Getting out of our own way and not getting stuck in our feelings. The will that our way isn’t the only way, but recognizing we are better together. Together we can accept our differences and learn with a little bit of grace, compassion and empathy.
Sometimes, I just want to know why, what’s the reason or purpose in the situation, why am I here in this situation? Any situation, getting stuck in traffic, why me? What is this situation preparing me for? Why? The past is my best answer, when I look back and think to prior situations, it always worked out for the best and prepared me for the future. You may say, you are just looking on the bright side or thinking too much. No, no, no way. We are put on a path for a reason; chosen or not, steps building on steps; getting us to where we need to go, whether we agree or disagree, one step at a time!
Finding joy can be extremely difficult to feel or find after grieving the loss of anything, especially something that was special to you. I am still getting over the fact that summer is over, I miss those beach and pool days bathing in the sunshine.
Grief, it can take all shapes and forms, some of which are out of our control. My Mom’s passing to cancer left it extremely hard to feel joy in anything, but as time went on, the joy was all around me. The thoughts, kindness, love, appreciation, gratitude that came with the loss of my Mom is indescribable. I felt it, I felt the joy when I turned on the news last week, survivors of Hurricane Harvey in Texas found the joy and love in their community; caring and kindness of strangers, even though all of their belongings are gone they were brought together by surviving as a community thriving on the love and thoughtfulness of strangers.
Life isn’t about merely surviving, making it to Friday, making it to the end of the day, getting by and getting through it. It’s how we get there that makes the difference. We can’t always control what is happening, but we can certainly control how we respond. Just like all of the people in Texas found joy in their community among a storm; supporting, helping others in need even though they couldn’t stop the storm, they found the joy.
Joy, search for the whispers of light, the gentle breeze, the joy is there even when we least expect it when we are not looking and start noticing.
Thank you to all the readers and your very kind comments. Thanks for reading and your encouragement to keep writing and sharing. I never thought that I would have 830 followers, thank you to each and everyone of you on joining me on my journey!