Let fear fuel your plan and lead to success!

Fear, hearing the word you may automatically tense up right?! Like omg, what did I forget? That’s what comes to my mind or maybe even think can I do this, will I succeed? I don’t think I can! Think about it, you are giving power to words and not action. If you have a fear of flying, maybe you avoid flying and take another form of transportation, that’s your plan, you got this because you already mapped out your alternate mode of transportation. What if you can’t do that? You have no choice but to fly. What do you do?! You have a high level of stress because your mind and emotions are in overload with the how, how can I do this? Probably before that you are in denial because you already decided you can’t, but once you think about it hopefully reality reasonates and you think to yourself you can do this. Let’s pause.

What if you don’t? The fear eats you up. As my Mom would say, “you never know until you try” “you are the only one stopping yourself, if you work at it and make a plan you can do it and if it doesn’t work out at least you have the satisfaction of trying.” She never used the word fail and I am grateful she never did! “Try, do your best and that’s all you can do, you can’t control the competition, but yourself, that’s it.” Yes! She’s so right.

Recently, I became certified in reiki and I know the benefits of reiki because I have experienced it first hand. Guess what that sneaky little fear crept in and I started to think what if people feel nothing. That’s what I thought, but I hadn’t even tried it yet!

What’s your plan?

Well, practice, get yourself ready and try it, have a plan of what it will look like. I did, I have given reiki to others and each time I was filled with gratitude because people felt peace and a sense of calm when I was done. Then, my plan grew because I overcame my fear and decided to take the show on the road with a friend who is also certified in reiki and offer it to cancer patients and guess what, the healing energy of peace, relaxation and overall good energy was amazing. Now, we are planning to lead a reiki class at a nearby Community center. Fear for me are stepping stones, the thought creeps in, what if….I breathe, get my plan together, put it in action and before I know fear has been my guiding light because it has driven my plan that I have put in action.

Take the fear, feel it, use it to fuel your plan and success. If your plan doesn’t work out, you have the satisfaction of knowing you tried and remember a street is one way if we make it.

August 2

On this day, I give thanks and am so cheerful thinking back on the wonderful Mom I was granted. On this day, she entered her heavenly home way too soon, but her time on earth was so plentiful and continues to be as we carry her in our hearts. Roberta Elsie left her mark on many. An imprint that was everlasting with her loving, kind, understanding, honest, fun, down to earth spirit and so much more.

A good friend once told me when in doubt think about it, “what would Bert do?” Bert, never needed the spotlight, she worked hard and when in her presence you were met with joy and realism. She spoke the truth fairly, honestly and respectfully. Impeccably organized and impeccable with her word. Roberta could always be trusted and even if she was annoyed, you would never know, well maybe, sometimes I knew because she would say, ha “I need you to stop talking for just 5 minutes.” She never raised her voice in anger, but instead would tell you exactly how she felt and she was always right, sometimes so much so!

Bert, I’m grateful for August 2 because it reminds me of you and always leaves me with,”what would Bert do?” The answer that lingers is…. it is what it is and do the best you can and have faith everything works out for the best. We can’t control everything and everything happens for a reason. Don’t waste your time worrying, but do what you can and move on.

What’s your perspective?

Is the glass half full or half empty? It’s all in perspective right?

I choose to see my glass as half full and as I mentioned the other day in my post about believing in my own honors; don’t doubt your successes, passions, recognition that you are given and certainly don’t neglect your honors. If you don’t see your own successes, how do you expect anyone else to see it! Time is precious, choose wisely.

How many days?

I realized the other day as embrassing as it is, I have to stop and really think about how many days are in a month. Just when I remember we are on to a new month. February, February, forget it, are we in the leap year or not? Seriously, it is the little things in life that you just have to laugh at. Yes, I know there is a song and poem, but honestly, I may of been absent the day that was taught because I can’t remember that either. My Mom would joke that I was dropped as a baby on my head, maybe that’s true! I can remember a lot, but the months, forget it. I practice, but rely on my calendar. Did this ever happen to you? My favorite pizza shop closes for a week in the summer, I glanced at the date and thought, that can’t be right because it’s a Wednesday, then I thought that’s right there is 31 days in July. I even said it aloud, I started laughing and thank goodness the cashier laughed too.

My point is, laugh at yourself because you are not perfect, keep your sense of humor and be genuine because the days run short even if we forget how many there are, be grateful for them.

To live

Someone once said to me “you like to work; you work hard, you volunteer…you like hard work.” Then, I really thought about it; one of the biggest lessons the death of my Mom from unexpected cancer taught me is to live. To live. To live and experience life. Experience life, but don’t let the experience get the best of you. We as humans will die someday, it’s a fact. How we die, God has our plan in the palm of his hand, us in the palm of his hand. I choose to work hard at living, doing the best I can, enjoying life and realizing death will come, come unexpectedly whether we want it too or not. Be positive because God, the Universe is listening and you have too much living to be wasted being negative. Work hard at living, put your worry into faith and enjoy the experience.