Are you in the game or watching from the sideline?

As I looked up at the sky, I thought how awesome. The light of this full moon weaving in and out of the clouds trying it’s best to shine its’ light. Then, it made me think about living through a pandemic and recent news. Sadness, distraught, disappointment, social unrest, sad and disheartening news when we look at social media, news outlets, and unfortunately for some people at times when encountering each other.

When I think back from now until March of 2020, sometimes things seem a blur. That’s not good enough. For me, there are so many blessings during the past year I can reflect on, so many and I’m thankful. However, I find myself taking inventory of what matters and even though we are in a pandemic the blur needs to he refreshed with purpose. This is our reality and how am I keeping purpose?

There are always choices; stay on the sideline or get in the game. I think at some point of the pandemic I’ve been on the sideline getting through a pandemic; going through the motions trying to stay positive. It’s time to get in the game; whether you are the quarterback, goalie, kicker or catcher how will you contribute. Making the effort to cut social media browsing, volunteering in my community, looking into giving reiki at a local organization safely and overall forward thinking. Get in the game safely of course, find your purpose, make a small change and watch it’s domino effect. Yes, sometimes I’ll be cheering from the sidelines sharing the light. Yes, live your life safely, smart during the pandemic, but for me I’m filling the blur with purpose.

Hope

Hope is the ship that sails even when the rain, wind, and storm turn fierce. Hope is a guiding light, but it’s up to us to keep it lit. Find it inside yourself to believe that a delay isn’t defeat, but a redirection. Redirection has a purpose even when the purpose isn’t clear in the moment. Sail the ship even when the shore is at a distance and remember growth and empowerment come outside of your comfort zone.

Safe at Shore

Are you the type of person that eases your way into the ocean, little by little or standing at the shore enjoying the beach? Or, are you all in? Diving into the water convincing yourself you will feel warmer by just diving in? Both of these ideas take some convincing of our own. Come on, just do it, or I wonder if there are shells!

Sometimes, the more I talk to myself, the more I stay at the shore not walking to take the plunge. Time and time again, I think to myself if someone fighting cancer can get up, show up and keep a positive attitude then I can do this! My Mom, even in her last months woke up with a purpose and never felt sorry for herself. It’s funny because prior to getting sick, my Mom never held a grudge or complained. Thinking back, I don’t think complaining was ever an option. The options were; if something is bothering you, make a change and if you can’t, change the way you think about it. In her words, stop talking about it and do something. Take action whether you are diving in or safe at the shore, see the beauty and believe in your thoughts and actions.

Let fear fuel your plan and lead to success!

Fear, hearing the word you may automatically tense up right?! Like omg, what did I forget? That’s what comes to my mind or maybe even think can I do this, will I succeed? I don’t think I can! Think about it, you are giving power to words and not action. If you have a fear of flying, maybe you avoid flying and take another form of transportation, that’s your plan, you got this because you already mapped out your alternate mode of transportation. What if you can’t do that? You have no choice but to fly. What do you do?! You have a high level of stress because your mind and emotions are in overload with the how, how can I do this? Probably before that you are in denial because you already decided you can’t, but once you think about it hopefully reality reasonates and you think to yourself you can do this. Let’s pause.

What if you don’t? The fear eats you up. As my Mom would say, “you never know until you try” “you are the only one stopping yourself, if you work at it and make a plan you can do it and if it doesn’t work out at least you have the satisfaction of trying.” She never used the word fail and I am grateful she never did! “Try, do your best and that’s all you can do, you can’t control the competition, but yourself, that’s it.” Yes! She’s so right.

Recently, I became certified in reiki and I know the benefits of reiki because I have experienced it first hand. Guess what that sneaky little fear crept in and I started to think what if people feel nothing. That’s what I thought, but I hadn’t even tried it yet!

What’s your plan?

Well, practice, get yourself ready and try it, have a plan of what it will look like. I did, I have given reiki to others and each time I was filled with gratitude because people felt peace and a sense of calm when I was done. Then, my plan grew because I overcame my fear and decided to take the show on the road with a friend who is also certified in reiki and offer it to cancer patients and guess what, the healing energy of peace, relaxation and overall good energy was amazing. Now, we are planning to lead a reiki class at a nearby Community center. Fear for me are stepping stones, the thought creeps in, what if….I breathe, get my plan together, put it in action and before I know fear has been my guiding light because it has driven my plan that I have put in action.

Take the fear, feel it, use it to fuel your plan and success. If your plan doesn’t work out, you have the satisfaction of knowing you tried and remember a street is one way if we make it.

August 2

On this day, I give thanks and am so cheerful thinking back on the wonderful Mom I was granted. On this day, she entered her heavenly home way too soon, but her time on earth was so plentiful and continues to be as we carry her in our hearts. Roberta Elsie left her mark on many. An imprint that was everlasting with her loving, kind, understanding, honest, fun, down to earth spirit and so much more.

A good friend once told me when in doubt think about it, “what would Bert do?” Bert, never needed the spotlight, she worked hard and when in her presence you were met with joy and realism. She spoke the truth fairly, honestly and respectfully. Impeccably organized and impeccable with her word. Roberta could always be trusted and even if she was annoyed, you would never know, well maybe, sometimes I knew because she would say, ha “I need you to stop talking for just 5 minutes.” She never raised her voice in anger, but instead would tell you exactly how she felt and she was always right, sometimes so much so!

Bert, I’m grateful for August 2 because it reminds me of you and always leaves me with,”what would Bert do?” The answer that lingers is…. it is what it is and do the best you can and have faith everything works out for the best. We can’t control everything and everything happens for a reason. Don’t waste your time worrying, but do what you can and move on.