Let fear fuel your plan and lead to success!

Fear, hearing the word you may automatically tense up right?! Like omg, what did I forget? That’s what comes to my mind or maybe even think can I do this, will I succeed? I don’t think I can! Think about it, you are giving power to words and not action. If you have a fear of flying, maybe you avoid flying and take another form of transportation, that’s your plan, you got this because you already mapped out your alternate mode of transportation. What if you can’t do that? You have no choice but to fly. What do you do?! You have a high level of stress because your mind and emotions are in overload with the how, how can I do this? Probably before that you are in denial because you already decided you can’t, but once you think about it hopefully reality reasonates and you think to yourself you can do this. Let’s pause.

What if you don’t? The fear eats you up. As my Mom would say, “you never know until you try” “you are the only one stopping yourself, if you work at it and make a plan you can do it and if it doesn’t work out at least you have the satisfaction of trying.” She never used the word fail and I am grateful she never did! “Try, do your best and that’s all you can do, you can’t control the competition, but yourself, that’s it.” Yes! She’s so right.

Recently, I became certified in reiki and I know the benefits of reiki because I have experienced it first hand. Guess what that sneaky little fear crept in and I started to think what if people feel nothing. That’s what I thought, but I hadn’t even tried it yet!

What’s your plan?

Well, practice, get yourself ready and try it, have a plan of what it will look like. I did, I have given reiki to others and each time I was filled with gratitude because people felt peace and a sense of calm when I was done. Then, my plan grew because I overcame my fear and decided to take the show on the road with a friend who is also certified in reiki and offer it to cancer patients and guess what, the healing energy of peace, relaxation and overall good energy was amazing. Now, we are planning to lead a reiki class at a nearby Community center. Fear for me are stepping stones, the thought creeps in, what if….I breathe, get my plan together, put it in action and before I know fear has been my guiding light because it has driven my plan that I have put in action.

Take the fear, feel it, use it to fuel your plan and success. If your plan doesn’t work out, you have the satisfaction of knowing you tried and remember a street is one way if we make it.

What the plank!

Back in March, I rededicate myself to wellness. It sounds a little like a baptism of some sort! I made a conscious effort to get to classes; spinning, bootcamp, zumba, yoga. The smorgasbord board of aerobic activity I’d say. There were days when I was at work thinking I don’t want too, but I remembered how good I felt when the class was over. Who really after working all day wants to plank, throw a tire or lift weights. The more consistent I got in doing classes, the easier and more enjoyable they are. What do “they” say it takes 21 days to create a habit. Well, I think it takes a lot more than that. I love the people I go with, location is convenient, the center is awesome, I feel great doing the classes and my workout clothes are comfy. It takes a lot more than 21 days. The discipline of getting to the gym grounds me. Make yourself a priority, it’s not selfish at all because you are investing in your future. Take it one plank at a time!

How many days?

I realized the other day as embrassing as it is, I have to stop and really think about how many days are in a month. Just when I remember we are on to a new month. February, February, forget it, are we in the leap year or not? Seriously, it is the little things in life that you just have to laugh at. Yes, I know there is a song and poem, but honestly, I may of been absent the day that was taught because I can’t remember that either. My Mom would joke that I was dropped as a baby on my head, maybe that’s true! I can remember a lot, but the months, forget it. I practice, but rely on my calendar. Did this ever happen to you? My favorite pizza shop closes for a week in the summer, I glanced at the date and thought, that can’t be right because it’s a Wednesday, then I thought that’s right there is 31 days in July. I even said it aloud, I started laughing and thank goodness the cashier laughed too.

My point is, laugh at yourself because you are not perfect, keep your sense of humor and be genuine because the days run short even if we forget how many there are, be grateful for them.

Did you ever think….why not?

Yesterday was a fun day of swimming with my 10 year old niece doing a lot of fun pool activities like I was a 10 year old; handstands, jumps, flips, volleyball. So fun. In the water, it’s like we can do it all, suddenly I am Olympic gymnast, not even thinking or afraid of twisting and turning. Just having fun. On the land, it’s a different story. There is something about the water, sun and kids, just being an Olympian in the pool, having fun and not making excuses; I can’t, should I, does this bathing suit fit? Just have fun and be positive even I am ok with not being a gymnast on land, I don’t want to outshine Simone Biles!

I’ll be honest, people tell me “you are so positive”. I try to be, but in my head, there are some crazy conversations going on, ” I don’t know, should I, will it work”? The answer is yes. Yes, if you make up your mind it will and you work at it. Maybe not how you thought, but for the best. Surround yourself with good people, supportive and keep your attitude genuine. Our attitude determines our success. If you keep saying you can’t, you won’t. I said that yesterday trying to get out of a wet bathing suit, I mean the only option was to walk around with my arm in the boob strap, that wasn’t happening.

I remember when I was in elementary school, my teachers would always says positive comments at conference time, but it was always “needs to work on confidence”. How do you do that? It’s not like multiplication that can be practiced. Confidence comes in time, experience and practice. Confidence comes in ignoring negative, selfish comments and believing in yourself. Embracing the moment and believing in what you are doing and aligning it with your passion and values.

As I got out the pool, closing out my Olympic routine for the day, I remembered I signed up for an hour long bootcamp class. What in the world am I thinking? I dragged myself there, did it and left feeling better. It’s not always pretty, but you too can pull yourself out of that wet bathing suit or at least get a work out trying and come through it better.