Fear, hearing the word you may automatically tense up right?! Like omg, what did I forget? That’s what comes to my mind or maybe even think can I do this, will I succeed? I don’t think I can! Think about it, you are giving power to words and not action. If you have a fear of flying, maybe you avoid flying and take another form of transportation, that’s your plan, you got this because you already mapped out your alternate mode of transportation. What if you can’t do that? You have no choice but to fly. What do you do?! You have a high level of stress because your mind and emotions are in overload with the how, how can I do this? Probably before that you are in denial because you already decided you can’t, but once you think about it hopefully reality reasonates and you think to yourself you can do this. Let’s pause.
What if you don’t? The fear eats you up. As my Mom would say, “you never know until you try” “you are the only one stopping yourself, if you work at it and make a plan you can do it and if it doesn’t work out at least you have the satisfaction of trying.” She never used the word fail and I am grateful she never did! “Try, do your best and that’s all you can do, you can’t control the competition, but yourself, that’s it.” Yes! She’s so right.
Recently, I became certified in reiki and I know the benefits of reiki because I have experienced it first hand. Guess what that sneaky little fear crept in and I started to think what if people feel nothing. That’s what I thought, but I hadn’t even tried it yet!
What’s your plan?
Well, practice, get yourself ready and try it, have a plan of what it will look like. I did, I have given reiki to others and each time I was filled with gratitude because people felt peace and a sense of calm when I was done. Then, my plan grew because I overcame my fear and decided to take the show on the road with a friend who is also certified in reiki and offer it to cancer patients and guess what, the healing energy of peace, relaxation and overall good energy was amazing. Now, we are planning to lead a reiki class at a nearby Community center. Fear for me are stepping stones, the thought creeps in, what if….I breathe, get my plan together, put it in action and before I know fear has been my guiding light because it has driven my plan that I have put in action.
Take the fear, feel it, use it to fuel your plan and success. If your plan doesn’t work out, you have the satisfaction of knowing you tried and remember a street is one way if we make it.
This is short because it’s simple.
Time, use it wisely because it’s a gift. Maximize your moments by realizing time is precious and fill it with joy, purpose, know your worth, find the time to fill yourself with what fills you!
Do you believe it? How many times have you said that or thought it about something? Well, this year I did! A lot! It wasn’t until about yesterday and reflecting on the past year, I had an Aha moment, believe it!
This past year, I was named the AstraZeneca Hope Lodge of the American Cancer Society Volunteer of the Year. I was honored, shocked and felt like what is the big deal because I am doing something I enjoy with others, helping many people and we have fun doing it! I had no idea, so much so that when I was being presented with the award, I had no clue that I was the one they were describing and talking about until they said my name! Some people may say that is a humble quality, but as I looked back on this year and thought about big moments, I really need to appreciate the honor that comes along with the hard work I do, that at times I don’t see as hard work because I am too busy doing what I enjoy, value and helping others.
Recently, I started a new job and in this new position I’ve realized a lot about myself and the qualities I possess which I again took for granted. As I thought more about it, the more I channel my joy, passion into something the work ethic and time invested is greater because of the joy. Now, this is not to say that everything is always easy where there is joy because if that is the case there would never be growth if isn’t wasn’t a challenge. The joy, passion, vision give us the zest to push through the challenge.
Where does the recognition come in when we are so invested in something that we continually pursue it as in my case being named the Volunteer of the Year? I never entered being a volunteer at the Hope Lodge to be named the volunteer of the year, I turned to volunteering with cancer patients and their families after a very personal experience of losing my Mom to cancer unexpectedly. The only recognition I yearned for was how can I bring more people in to volunteer at the Hope Lodge, help people going through a cancer diagnosis? Finding my why is what brought me there, so even though I know my why and found my passion, I need to learn not to take it for granted! Believe in your successes as little or as big as they may be because what you take for granted may be what inspires others whether your know it or not!
The more I believe in my passion, successes and work, I believe the recognition in myself. If you never recognize your successes and feel it, how does your work reflect the joy? Now, I am not saying I am going around “tooting my horn” and wearing a shirt that says “Volunteer of the Year.”! I will at least give myself enough recognition in my head and heart that I know who the heck people are talking about, ha! It’s about self care. Think about it, someone has said to you I am sure, I love those shoes and you probably say thanks so much, they are from DSW! They can see it! So, when someone compliments you on your character everything we don’t see immediately on the outside, don’t take it for granted because you are aren’t wearing your passion as a necklace but rather in your heart.
This year as I head into 2019, my vision for the year is to not take my joys, passions, thoughts for granted, but instead appreciate the moments, recognition and appreciate my character, just as much as new pair of shoes and take the compliment from myself and others~from the shoes to the heart!
I realized the other day as embrassing as it is, I have to stop and really think about how many days are in a month. Just when I remember we are on to a new month. February, February, forget it, are we in the leap year or not? Seriously, it is the little things in life that you just have to laugh at. Yes, I know there is a song and poem, but honestly, I may of been absent the day that was taught because I can’t remember that either. My Mom would joke that I was dropped as a baby on my head, maybe that’s true! I can remember a lot, but the months, forget it. I practice, but rely on my calendar. Did this ever happen to you? My favorite pizza shop closes for a week in the summer, I glanced at the date and thought, that can’t be right because it’s a Wednesday, then I thought that’s right there is 31 days in July. I even said it aloud, I started laughing and thank goodness the cashier laughed too.
My point is, laugh at yourself because you are not perfect, keep your sense of humor and be genuine because the days run short even if we forget how many there are, be grateful for them.