Reflect Learn Grow

See every opportunity as a gift to grow for the best and remember be kind to yourself because the majority of situations are not about our actions, but our reactions and how we choose to respond. Keep it in perspective!

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2019, you better believe it!

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Do you believe it? How many times have you said that or thought it about something? Well, this year I did! A lot! It wasn’t until about yesterday and reflecting on the past year,  I had an Aha moment, believe it!

This past year, I was named the AstraZeneca Hope Lodge of the American Cancer Society Volunteer of the Year. I was honored, shocked and felt like what is the big deal because I am doing something  I enjoy with others, helping many people and we have fun doing it!  I had no idea,  so much so that when I was being presented with the award, I had no clue that I was the one they were describing and talking about until they said my name!  Some people may say that is a humble quality, but as I looked back on this year and thought about big moments, I really need to appreciate the honor that comes along with the hard work I do, that at times I don’t see as hard work because I am too busy doing what I enjoy, value and  helping others.

Recently, I started a new job and in this new position I’ve realized a lot about myself and the qualities I possess which I again took for granted. As I thought more about it, the more I channel my joy, passion into something the work ethic and time invested is greater because of the joy.  Now, this is not to say that everything is always easy where there is joy because if that is the case there would never be growth if isn’t wasn’t a challenge. The joy, passion, vision give us the zest to push through the challenge.

Where does the recognition come in when we are so invested in something that we continually pursue it as in my case being named the Volunteer of the Year? I never entered being a volunteer at the Hope Lodge to be named the volunteer of the year, I turned to volunteering with cancer patients and their families after a very personal experience of losing my Mom to cancer unexpectedly.  The only recognition I yearned for was how can I bring more people in to volunteer at the Hope Lodge, help people going through a cancer diagnosis? Finding my why is what brought me there, so even though I know my why and found my passion, I need to learn not to take it for granted! Believe in your successes as little or as big as they may be because what you take for granted may be what inspires others whether your know it or not!

The more I believe in my passion, successes and work, I believe the recognition in myself. If you never recognize your successes and feel it, how does your work reflect the joy? Now, I am not saying I am going around “tooting my horn” and wearing a shirt that says “Volunteer of the Year.”!  I will at least give myself enough recognition in my head and heart that I know who the heck people are talking about, ha! It’s about self care. Think about it, someone has said to you I am sure, I love those shoes and you probably say thanks so much, they are from DSW! They can see it! So, when someone compliments you on your character everything we don’t see immediately on the outside, don’t take it for granted because you are aren’t wearing your passion as a necklace but rather in your heart.

This year as I head into 2019, my vision for the year is to not take my joys, passions,  thoughts for granted, but instead appreciate the moments, recognition and appreciate my character, just as much as new pair of shoes and take the compliment from myself and others~from the shoes to the heart!

New Year hangover or cleanse?

You are probably thinking girl, who you kidding, ain’t nobody cleansing into New Year’s Day! Cheers to all things Holiday; food, friends, family, fun, Jesus and spirits! How will you enter the New Year cleansing or hungover? A couple years ago, I cleansed my diet of gluten due to the advice of my Dr. and also started meditation and exercise along with prayer and faith in God.  With all this new found healthy living which brought good health and energy, every new year since then  I started off the year by creating a vision board and setting intentions of what I wanted to manifest and how I would manifest. Sounds easy, hang the board and done. Not really, part of it I discovered by journaling is a work in progress and realizing the closed doors were detours to better beginnings.  I must say being mindful, purposeful and having faith in my journey has led me to joy. Making my intentions clear, purposeful and manageable, I truly am excited to start the new year not hungover with last year’s I wish or I wonder.  Cleanse yourself of all the I should of, would of and could of and create your 2018 vision. 

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Next! Just not interested, the intention is there but no effort put forth, just spells out not interested. If you want to, you will. Experience has told me, people will “feel bad”, maybe even lie, come up with a story to not follow through to keep plans, keep an appointment, but guess what if they were that interested they would put forth the effort and make the connection or include you. Let their action be your guide. Intention is only as good as action. Period. Don’t feel bad, you did nothing wrong, the motive behind people’s effort has nothing to do with you and if it does, they are not for you. Appreciate and make the time for all the ones who have great intentions and make the effort, they are truly interested and that is genuine.

Fire into the Balance

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Resulotions, hmmm……Well, I resolve to be the best version of me this year.
Resolutions, I feel like are something that is said and repeated, but it’s the action that is put into it to keep the resolve. Like anything, it’s work, but work can be a harsh word, so I like to refer to it as a plan of action. Your  plan is your guide to how you conquer your resolve and yes it’s a learning process. A couple of years ago, I attended a workshop with an awesome facilitator life coach, Christa Tinari. She did a great job teaching us how to map out our vision for the new year and creating tangible goals and habits that would lead to our vision. We created a vision board which for me was so helpful into putting my plan into place.
I thought, it would go like this, my vision is to lose weight and by week 2 I would be on my way. Not that easy. It’s a learning process of changing habits and learning along the way. I am thankful for that vision because it led me to being diagnosed with a gluten intolerance which was a complete roadblock to my vision that I had no idea was there. I am thankful to remove that block and keep going getting closer to my vision by changing habits along the way.
My vision for 2016, drum roll please….it’s a collection of small ideas that I am able to envision due to the fact that I’ve worked hard on creating balance, my vision a couple years ago. I continually work on balance, but finally feel centered which took a lot of time of learning how to say yes and make the time to do what truly matters and sometimes that was saying no. My vision this year is to live fierce without doubt. I have all the tools because of saying yes and no in building balance, but now it’s about breathing fire into the balance and my vision board is envigorating. I have learned that your vision may take a little longer than a year, but that’s ok, we are all making steps to our better selves by keeping our vision in mind. Happy New Year!