Self Compassion

I find my best days are when I feel a sense of order within my schedule, my mind and my environment. To me, organization leads to creativity, compassion, a listening ear, empathy and production. Why? My mind can relax when I feel a sense of stillness. Stillness to me is peace and order. Well, like you, 2020 has had a great time laughing at my sense of peace and order. But, like you, most likely, I’ve had to reevaluate systems that create peace and order. Guess what, it’s not so much about peace and order, but being flexible to change, understanding and finding what works for me personally. Self compassion, in my words is building your own sense of peace and order, but allowing yourself the amount of compassion that leads to your best days.

Are we really in it together?

Keeping this short and simple because it is.

“We are in this together.” You’ve probably heard this recently from a well meaning person. Are we really in it together? It’s nice to say and think, but everyone’s situation is so different during these months.

When I think about it, what we can be “in together” is acceptance, grace and compassion. Honoring that everyone’s feelings, views, situations are different. Accepting that everyone has a vastly different opinion and embracing it with compassion and having grace to accept and not to judge. Sounds easy, right? It is, but it becomes complicated when ego gets in the way, but guess what that’s grace and compassion. Grace and compassion, not only for others, but yourself. We are in it together with a little bit of grace, compassion, love and acceptance.

Do your best, that’s it.

Thank you to all the “helpers” for all you are doing to keep people safe and healthy.

Doing your best at this point means staying home. Is it easy? No. Introverts are rejoicing. Extroverts are most likely struggling. Kids are at home, homes have turned into schools and offices. Gyms. Dance and exercise studios. All while being interrupted by Corona Conferences. We or should I say I’m on overload of constant information, all while forgetting what day it is wearing yesterday’s pajamas and last month’s nails, ok, let’s be honest. It’s not pretty.

Stop. Do the best you can. Be kind to yourself. Sometimes making it through the day matters. Work. Exercise. Pray. Meditation. Clean. Hobbies. Family and friends. Organize. Social Distance Socialize. Netflix. Eat and Drink.

Think positive, everything in moderation isn’t that what “they” say, be kind to yourself and enjoy the days as best you can. That’s it, that’s all we can and yes, stay home.

Let fear fuel your plan and lead to success!

Fear, hearing the word you may automatically tense up right?! Like omg, what did I forget? That’s what comes to my mind or maybe even think can I do this, will I succeed? I don’t think I can! Think about it, you are giving power to words and not action. If you have a fear of flying, maybe you avoid flying and take another form of transportation, that’s your plan, you got this because you already mapped out your alternate mode of transportation. What if you can’t do that? You have no choice but to fly. What do you do?! You have a high level of stress because your mind and emotions are in overload with the how, how can I do this? Probably before that you are in denial because you already decided you can’t, but once you think about it hopefully reality reasonates and you think to yourself you can do this. Let’s pause.

What if you don’t? The fear eats you up. As my Mom would say, “you never know until you try” “you are the only one stopping yourself, if you work at it and make a plan you can do it and if it doesn’t work out at least you have the satisfaction of trying.” She never used the word fail and I am grateful she never did! “Try, do your best and that’s all you can do, you can’t control the competition, but yourself, that’s it.” Yes! She’s so right.

Recently, I became certified in reiki and I know the benefits of reiki because I have experienced it first hand. Guess what that sneaky little fear crept in and I started to think what if people feel nothing. That’s what I thought, but I hadn’t even tried it yet!

What’s your plan?

Well, practice, get yourself ready and try it, have a plan of what it will look like. I did, I have given reiki to others and each time I was filled with gratitude because people felt peace and a sense of calm when I was done. Then, my plan grew because I overcame my fear and decided to take the show on the road with a friend who is also certified in reiki and offer it to cancer patients and guess what, the healing energy of peace, relaxation and overall good energy was amazing. Now, we are planning to lead a reiki class at a nearby Community center. Fear for me are stepping stones, the thought creeps in, what if….I breathe, get my plan together, put it in action and before I know fear has been my guiding light because it has driven my plan that I have put in action.

Take the fear, feel it, use it to fuel your plan and success. If your plan doesn’t work out, you have the satisfaction of knowing you tried and remember a street is one way if we make it.

Reflect Learn Grow

See every opportunity as a gift to grow for the best and remember be kind to yourself because the majority of situations are not about our actions, but our reactions and how we choose to respond. Keep it in perspective!

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