Reflect Learn Grow

See every opportunity as a gift to grow for the best and remember be kind to yourself because the majority of situations are not about our actions, but our reactions and how we choose to respond. Keep it in perspective!

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What’s your perspective?

Is the glass half full or half empty? It’s all in perspective right?

I choose to see my glass as half full and as I mentioned the other day in my post about believing in my own honors; don’t doubt your successes, passions, recognition that you are given and certainly don’t neglect your honors. If you don’t see your own successes, how do you expect anyone else to see it! Time is precious, choose wisely.

2019, you better believe it!

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Do you believe it? How many times have you said that or thought it about something? Well, this year I did! A lot! It wasn’t until about yesterday and reflecting on the past year,  I had an Aha moment, believe it!

This past year, I was named the AstraZeneca Hope Lodge of the American Cancer Society Volunteer of the Year. I was honored, shocked and felt like what is the big deal because I am doing something  I enjoy with others, helping many people and we have fun doing it!  I had no idea,  so much so that when I was being presented with the award, I had no clue that I was the one they were describing and talking about until they said my name!  Some people may say that is a humble quality, but as I looked back on this year and thought about big moments, I really need to appreciate the honor that comes along with the hard work I do, that at times I don’t see as hard work because I am too busy doing what I enjoy, value and  helping others.

Recently, I started a new job and in this new position I’ve realized a lot about myself and the qualities I possess which I again took for granted. As I thought more about it, the more I channel my joy, passion into something the work ethic and time invested is greater because of the joy.  Now, this is not to say that everything is always easy where there is joy because if that is the case there would never be growth if isn’t wasn’t a challenge. The joy, passion, vision give us the zest to push through the challenge.

Where does the recognition come in when we are so invested in something that we continually pursue it as in my case being named the Volunteer of the Year? I never entered being a volunteer at the Hope Lodge to be named the volunteer of the year, I turned to volunteering with cancer patients and their families after a very personal experience of losing my Mom to cancer unexpectedly.  The only recognition I yearned for was how can I bring more people in to volunteer at the Hope Lodge, help people going through a cancer diagnosis? Finding my why is what brought me there, so even though I know my why and found my passion, I need to learn not to take it for granted! Believe in your successes as little or as big as they may be because what you take for granted may be what inspires others whether your know it or not!

The more I believe in my passion, successes and work, I believe the recognition in myself. If you never recognize your successes and feel it, how does your work reflect the joy? Now, I am not saying I am going around “tooting my horn” and wearing a shirt that says “Volunteer of the Year.”!  I will at least give myself enough recognition in my head and heart that I know who the heck people are talking about, ha! It’s about self care. Think about it, someone has said to you I am sure, I love those shoes and you probably say thanks so much, they are from DSW! They can see it! So, when someone compliments you on your character everything we don’t see immediately on the outside, don’t take it for granted because you are aren’t wearing your passion as a necklace but rather in your heart.

This year as I head into 2019, my vision for the year is to not take my joys, passions,  thoughts for granted, but instead appreciate the moments, recognition and appreciate my character, just as much as new pair of shoes and take the compliment from myself and others~from the shoes to the heart!

Why?

Sometimes, I just want to know why,  what’s the reason or purpose in the situation,  why am I here in this situation? Any situation,  getting stuck in traffic, why me? What is this situation preparing me for? Why? The past is my best answer,  when I look back and think to prior situations,  it always worked out for the best and prepared me for the future. You may say, you are just looking on the bright side or thinking too much. No, no, no way. We are put on a path for a reason; chosen or not, steps building on steps; getting us to where we need to go, whether we agree or disagree, one step at a time! 

Joy to the World!

Finding joy can be extremely difficult to feel or find after grieving the loss of anything, especially something that was special to you. I am still getting over the fact that summer is over, I miss those beach and pool days bathing in the sunshine.

 Grief, it can take all shapes and forms, some of which are out of our control. My Mom’s passing to cancer left it extremely hard to feel joy in anything, but as time went on, the joy was all around me. The thoughts, kindness, love, appreciation,  gratitude that came with the loss of my Mom is indescribable.  I felt it, I felt the joy when I turned on the news last week, survivors of Hurricane Harvey in Texas found the joy and love in their community; caring and kindness of strangers, even though all of their belongings are gone they were brought together by surviving as a community thriving on the love and thoughtfulness of strangers.

Life isn’t about merely surviving, making it to Friday, making it to the end of the day, getting by and getting through it. It’s how we get there that makes the difference.  We can’t always control what is happening, but we can certainly control how we respond. Just like all of the people in Texas found joy in their community among a storm; supporting, helping others in need even though they couldn’t stop the storm, they found the joy. 

Joy, search for the whispers of light, the gentle breeze, the joy is there even when we least expect it when we are not looking and start noticing.